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Get Out of Your Head: How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Lead with Clarity and Confidence

Updated: Mar 20, 2023

Are you feeling stuck in your head as a leader? Do you find yourself overthinking decisions and worrying about what others think of you? If so, you're not alone. Many leaders struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk, which can hinder their ability to lead effectively.


Leadership can be a mentally taxing role. The constant pressure to make decisions and lead with confidence can lead to a spiral of negative self-talk and doubt. That's why I am excited to introduce the book "Get Out of Your Head" by Jennie Allen, which offers a practical guide to overcoming negative thought patterns and unlocking your full potential as a leader.


Let's delve into some key takeaways I had from this book and the various personal stories that came to my mind while I read it that illustrate how these principles can be applied in a leadership context. This book is a must-read for anyone who wants to break free from self-doubt and lead with greater clarity and confidence. So let's dive in and discover how "Get Out of Your Head" can transform your leadership approach.


 

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One of the central themes of the book is the idea that our thoughts can either lead us toward success or hold us back from achieving our goals.


"The mind is a battlefield. We must be vigilant to keep our thoughts aligned with truth and take our thoughts captive when they stray"

When I allow negative thoughts to consume me, I find that I am less effective in my role and struggle to make sound decisions.


I know firsthand the power of the mind. During my last deployment, I found myself struggling with negative thoughts and self-doubt. I was constantly questioning my abilities and whether I was capable of fulfilling my duties. It felt like a constant battle in my mind, and I was losing. I hated the way I felt and knew that I needed to take action to get my thoughts under control.


I started by identifying the negative thought patterns that were holding me back. Every time a negative thought crept in, I reminded myself of the truth and took that thought captive. I replaced those negative thoughts with positive affirmations and focused on my strengths and accomplishments.


Over time, I noticed a significant shift in my mindset. I felt more confident and capable of handling whatever challenges came my way. And as a result, my work improved, and my team noticed the change in my attitude and work ethic.


This experience taught me the power of the mind and the importance of being vigilant in monitoring our thoughts. As leaders, it's essential to be aware of the impact our thoughts have on our actions and those around us. By keeping our thoughts aligned with truth and taking our thoughts captive when they stray, we can become better leaders and positively impact those we lead.

 

Allen offers practical steps for how to break free from negative thought patterns and take control of your thinking. She writes, "God gave us the ability to renew our minds, to transform our thinking, and to live in peace" (p. 42).


One way I have applied this principle as a leader is by intentionally setting aside time each day to focus on positive affirmations and prayer. This helps me to center myself and align my thoughts with truth, which in turn helps me to lead with greater clarity and confidence.


There was a period in my leadership journey when I neglected to set aside time each day for positive affirmations and prayer. I found myself becoming more easily frustrated with my team, and my thoughts were often negative and critical. This negatively impacted my leadership, and I noticed a decrease in team morale and productivity. It was only when I remembered the importance of aligning my thoughts with the truth that I was able to regain my focus and lead with greater clarity and confidence.


I have found that setting aside time each day for positive affirmations and prayer has had a significant impact on my leadership journey. By taking intentional steps to align my thoughts with truth, I am better equipped to lead my team with clarity and confidence. I have noticed that my team is more motivated and productive, and there is an overall sense of positivity and camaraderie. When I make this a daily habit, I feel more centered and focused, and I am able to handle any challenges that come my way with greater ease.

 

Another key takeaway from the book is the importance of vulnerability and community.

"When we invite others into our struggle, we can overcome what we could never face alone"

As a leader, it can be tempting to try to appear invincible and keep our struggles to ourselves. However, I have found that when I am open and vulnerable with my team, it creates a space for authentic connection and encourages others to do the same. This not only builds trust and camaraderie within the team but also helps us to overcome challenges together.


During my last deployment, I missed the birth of my second child. It was a difficult time for me, and I found myself shutting off and closing down emotionally. I didn't want to burden my team with my personal problems, so I tried to push through and focus on work. However, I soon realized that my negative thoughts and emotions were impacting my leadership and my team's morale.


It wasn't until I mustered the courage to talk to my leadership about what I was going through that I began to see a positive change. They were understanding and supportive, and they helped me work through my emotions and find ways to stay connected with my family despite the distance. By being vulnerable and honest, I was able to receive the support I needed to be a better leader for my team.


Through positive affirmations and prayer, I was able to align my thoughts with truth and find peace during difficult times. This helped me to lead with greater clarity and confidence, and my team noticed the difference. We worked together more efficiently, and there was a greater sense of camaraderie and support. It was a reminder that taking care of our emotional and mental well-being is crucial in our leadership journey.


 

Being a leader can be a mentally taxing role, but it is essential to keep our thoughts aligned with truth to lead effectively. Jennie Allen's book "Get Out of Your Head" provides a practical guide to overcoming negative thought patterns and unlocking our full potential as leaders.


By being vigilant in monitoring our thoughts, intentionally setting aside time each day for positive affirmations and prayer, and being open and vulnerable with our team, we can become better leaders and positively impact those we lead. Don't let negative self-talk and self-doubt hold you back from being the best leader you can be.


Remember, when we invite others into our struggle, we can overcome what we could never face alone.


 
"Until Next Time Climb Together"
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